Congratulations! You’re engaged! Now bring on the bombardment of preliminary questions. Like, 'Have you set a date yet?'
A cold sweat drapes your body as you feel inadequate, panicked, and already ages behind where you think you should be for this wedding stuff.
Stop it right there.
You aren’t behind; people are just nosy. You aren’t inadequate; people are overly curious. Ditch the panic and read on to help determine when you should get married.
DATES OR NUMBERS WITH MEANING
Think about numbers you like, ones that have meaning, that fall on an anniversary or a birthday or even a holiday. This can be fun, but I’m warning you not to be obsessed with it. Especially if your attachment to a number leads to analysis paralysis. The date is a vital detail for your wedding, and without it, planning can stall out and result in a permanent frustration face.
What season do you want to get married in? If you got engaged on December 31st (yay for you) and you want to get married in the summer season (talking about the Northern hemisphere here), then you will have time to plan properly if you get married in late August. That’s only if you start to settle into a hustle pace or if you already know half your vendors are available (read the next section) and patiently awaiting you to inquire with them.
If you want a spring wedding, I would seriously rethink your strategy. If you have zero wedding experience, zero things lined up or decided on for this wedding you just said yes to having, 3-5 months is NOT enough time for you to live a life you’re going to like... and then get married at the peak of that hateful stress and overabundant overwhelm.
Stuck between two seasons? Think about the seasonal weather in the area you want to get married to help you narrow it down. Are you more terrified of the possibility of rain on your wedding day or oppressive heat? Reference the Farmer’s Almanac for a minute amount of confidence boosting.
Likely you and your fiance aren’t going to pick a date where one of you is not available (however, military couples have this dilemma and require extra flexibility with availability), but what if you are set on a date and a venue, and the venue is not available? Or a photographer, a planner, an officiant?
Before you dig your feet in for 8/18/18 - make sure that the other must-haves of your wedding are available. Especially if they make it in your top five must-haves. If they aren’t available, then you must have a second date lined up.
There are many convenience factors which play when selecting a date, both for yourself and for your guests. Do you have guests traveling from far and wide? If so, think about a date that would be most convenient for them. Airfare spikes during the holidays, so consider the expenses that will go into reaching your wedding like transportation.
Are you picking a date that will be inconvenient for your guests because other family related events are happening near or on that date? Like other weddings, births or family vacations? Perhaps give those big life events or vacation a bit of breathing room.
Since you’re newly engaged, shouldn’t you give yourself a little bit of breathing room? Like if you just got engaged on December 31st (again, yay for you), it’s likely an inconvenience to plan your wedding for April, or May, or anything with less than eight months to get your shit together. That includes taking engagement pictures to go in your save the dates and booking vendors. In the upper midwest, where seasonal weather favors summer weddings, this might mean giving yourself a year plus to plan, and I have to admit, that’s a really great idea.
Just remember that the biggest complaint couples with short engagements have is that they felt rushed, cramped and like they didn’t even have the time to enjoy being engaged. I want you to be happily married, but I also want you to be happily engaged.
Prosperity, Love & Happiness,